don’t interrupt the sorrow

ONCE AGAIN, I have nothing.

And while most of my favorite bloggers would rather keep to themselves these annoying and now-repetitive admissions of failure, here I am nurturing the frustration and feeding it fat for everyone to read.

Critic Anis Shivani writes: “The individual fiction writer would have to be strong enough to take the moral offensive against writing that deludes the reader into thinking that his private ignominies are worth celebration and memorialization.”

I’m not a fiction writer — I exclusively write on this blog — and neither am I imploring readers to celebrate my ignominies (at least not explicitly, I think, because the desire must be buried deep within the cumulonimbus clutter of my id; charot lang sa id). But I do agree with Shivani’s stance against the current setup in which “no coherent narrative is possible…except the narrative of the private self, cut off from external nourishment.” Ganda ampota.

Shivani profiles the contemporary writer as “vaguely liberal” who “doesn’t have a grasp of politics” and is scared to write “anything offensive to any constituency.” He also confronts the fiction writer’s “denial of language’s possibilities…daring into no unpredictable verbal territory.” And he says this too, which I will quote at length in case nobody feels inclined to read the entire piece:

“Then what is fiction for? To write one more time about the sister who suffered abuse at the hands of the father, the mother who goes not gently into the night of Alzheimer’s disease, the husband who philanders and the wife who refuses emotion? One more time, in the same toneless, placid, paternalizing style, dotted with little points of light that threaten to emerge as dire epiphanies?”

Hay, Mang Anis. Same dude who once spoke ill of writers like Amy Tan and Junot Diaz. Often I agree with him, sometimes I don’t, but I generally echo his sentiment against encouraging writers to wrongly believe that “every insight is valid” and celebrating them for being apolitical as if neutrality isn’t already a political statement on its own.

So now, tonight, I write this mema post because I am burdened by some emotional weight. Some nights I feel down and sometimes I write about it. But sometimes, like tonight, I don’t. Because sometimes, like tonight, I am not in the mood to verbalize and give shape to these amorphous monsters. And sometimes, like tonight, the weight is unbelievably heavy that I’d rather think of something else, do something else, be somewhere else.

So tonight I essentially copy-paste what Mang Anis already wrote, at the risk of doing what he very clearly detests. And maybe tonight — after years of trying to take care of my already fragile pair of lungs — I might go out for a smoke. #

Apologies to Joni Mitchell who sang “Don’t Interrupt the Sorrow,” the fourth track of The Hissing of Summer Lawns, the featured image

This is a re-post from 09/28/2017. It’s just one of those nights, man. Please send hugs.😔


  1. Thea

    Baka may something ngayon o bilog ang buwan. I was feeling down last night, naiiyak levelz pero pinipigilan cause #adulting hhahahahayyyyyyy sana maging okay na tayo. Sana okay na ulit ang mga araw, sana hindi na nakakadepress ang mga naiisip natin, ako kasi parang nababaliw na ahahah


    1. Jolens

      Nabasa ko nga sa posts mo baks. Pareho tayo. Ayoko na rin magtrabaho o mabuhay, huhu. Nababaliw na rin ako e juice kudai. 😦 Pero sabi nga nila, “this too shall pass.” So sana nga it passes, whatever it is that you and I are going through huhu.

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      1. Thea

        Alam ko nga parang si Emyel din nagaadult kahapon eh. hayyy ang hirap baks no? Pero kaya natin to! Kapit lang!! Kahapon dalawang beses ko na narinig yung “kapit lang” parang ang dali sabihin pero sa sobrang disoriented ko kahapon at kagabi, di ko alam pano pa kakapit. Dito lang ako, sama tayo sa pagkapit kahit ga-hibla nalang ang kinakapitan haha

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  2. punjetry

    Alam mo, ramdam ko yung bigat. Yung bigat ng sentences mo at bigat ng dugo na dumadaloy sa ilong ko.

    On the brighter side, it is sometimes dark.

    Polarity, alam mo yun. Yung bigat ng pakiramdam mo ngayon may kaakibat na kasiyahan. Tapos balik ulit. Di pwedeng parati malungkot. Di pwede parating masaya. Pero dapat laging maganda.

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    1. Jolens

      Hahaha benta ka talaga Anje! 🙂

      Pero oo nga, pwede. Parang ‘yung law ni Newton — for every emotion, there is an equal and opposite emotion. Sana quantifiable din ang feelings gaya ng forces ‘no? Charot.

      Sige na nga, magpapaganda ako tuhday. Haha. 😀

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